Honestly the moral of my book is that I should be in therapy, and that is probably the best dating advice any of us could ever get. Obviously I didn’t invent any of this and in fact barely ever practice it. I hate when people are mean when they flirt! I can’t be horny when my feelings are hurt! Be honest and communicative with your partners. I know this isn’t a self-help guide, but is there any handy advice for the dating reader? I’ve now become a horrible nightmare person who is constantly having conversations where I’m like, “Oh! I … actually … wrote about this in my book.” Oh, everything! One of the pleasures of writing it was figuring out my views - nebulous concepts or patterns I had observed, but never thought about until forced to sit alone, staring at my computer, crying while trying to get my thoughts in a straight line. I’m never going to be president and legally force all men to give all women they know $20,000, so writing this book feels like, hopefully, a worthwhile thing I can do for the world.ĭid the book clarify anything about dating for you personally? I’ve had women telling me that the book was really personally meaningful for them. I feel like I haven’t misused my time or let myself down. But writing this book made me really aware of how dating is informed by how women are socialized, how society expects women and men to act, how capitalism is served by women fixating on finding a partner. I don’t know if I would say I feel “empowered,” because that’s become something I feel like we’re supposed to think comes from, like, getting laser facials or some shit. You worry in the book about the stereotype of women writing only about “dating and their anxiety disorders.” Did you get over that fear? Do you feel newly empowered?Īfter thinking really hard about dating and romance for nine months, I did come out on the other end feeling like it isn’t a frivolous thing to write about at all. Although, I am one of those who thinks there can be no true feminism under capitalism. I think a good starting point is addressing the wage gap, which disproportionately affects women of color. I mean, much smarter people than I have written much longer books on this issue. Well, I’ve read it! You begin by describing it as “a comedy philosophy book about what dating and loving is like now, in an era that we thought was the end of patriarchy (but we now know is at least five hundred years away from that) and at the beginning of an age where robots do all our dating for us.” So we’ll start with an easy question: How do we dismantle the patriarchy? My main feeling is that everyone at work keeps apologizing for not having read my book yet, and I have to keep on saying that it’s not out yet so it’s fine. Hi Blythe! How are you feeling about the book?
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